Staying True to Yourself
It’s hard staying true to who you are and not compromise your integrity. The many voice around you are chiming in, on how you should live your life. Sometimes instead of people helping you they create more confusion within you. They muddy your dreams and your hopes with what they hoped for themselves.
Some feel that you are theirs to own like property or cattle. They would like to tell you where to go, who to speak to and what to say. This is not only true in love relationships. This is true within your family, friends and co-workers. Have you ever had someone say to you: “Why can’t you be like ________ (insert name here)?” or “Why aren’t you more like ________ (insert personality here)?
I used to hear this all the time. And when these words where said to me; it was as if a curse had been placed on me. As if their words made me stop dreaming; aspiring for better. They were comparing me to someone else. Someone who didn’t speak like me, walk like me nor did they laugh like me. Yet they wanted me to change who I was, to be like someone else???
The question I’m most often asked is, why did I buy a house in a small town. Now this question comes right after their congratulations. But if you’re truly happy for someone, you don’t ask them why did they make their decision. Since, that persons decision as no bearing on your life. Hence, when I get that question I answer politely, but I know within myself that I’ve made the right decision for me. Therefore, whatever side comment comes from their lips next, does not bother me in the less.
Having 4 unique sisters, as made me realize that it’s okay to be who I am. We have different sense of humors and lifestyles but when we all come together there is a deep respect and love for one another.
Here is what I’ve learned so far:
Not everyone is for you
I’m not only referring to strangers but also those in your circle. I’m not saying they are bad people or that they wish you harm; but not everyone was meant to go on your life’s journey with you. Resentment can creep into their minds from not wanting you to grow as a person. Sometimes, it’s hard to watch someone grow and move forward without you, so you try and hold them back for as long as you can.
Be true to yourself
You know when you’re not being true to yourself, you can feel it in your bones. When the voice in your head is telling you to do one thing and the people around you wants you to do another. Be true to yourself. You are the author of your own story. No one can live your life for you.
This advice is coming from a teen mom who made something great out of a bad situation. I was only able to grow after the mistakes I’ve made. Before I had my son, I felt lost and without purpose. Once he was born, my hustle mentality kicked in. You’re going to make many errors, but when you make those mistakes pick yourself up and try again. No one is keeping score of your life.
Stand in you true
Your pain, your heartache and trails are what made you who you are today. Although the picture may not be beautiful, it’s who you are. Accept yourself for who you are, change what you wish was better about yourself, but don’t ever forget the hard work you put into being who you where meant to be. Your life may not be perfect but be the best you, you can be.
You’ll constantly be changing you’re wants, needs and your likes/dislikes. Sometimes you’ll change the people you surround yourself with and that’s fine. You’re on a journey to finding your true self. Consequently, occasionally you must let go of things and people to get to the next faze of your life. You’ll know when to do so. Trust your gut feeling and have faith and suddenly you’ll realize that you’re on your right path.
In conclusion, stay true to yourself since that’s the only measure of success that matters. Anyone can tell you who you should be or who they would you to be like. Find happiness within yourself; you will have a truer life. Mistakes, flaws and all…